Words You Can Save Your Life "Can words affect our thoughts, shape
being and even health? "Why most of us have said on occasion that
are useless, boring, or we're fat? Then we will
present several cases that show how our thinking affects our lives deeply
.
Lydia is the case of a winner in the eyes of the whole world : a perfect marriage, two children
great and successful work. But she believes her life was the development
it deserves: I wanted more of his marriage and his career. "It
totally useless, I have no possibility" is one of the expressions
not to repeat. Did not want to ask for a promotion because it was "useless" and
not going to get. Also called "useless" the garage that led
his car when his car broke down, and the "futility" to ask her husband to help her in
home. Lydia was not even aware that repeats the word "useless"
constantly, but any psychologist would not need more information to diagnose
.
live in an age in which we are all concerned, or even slightly obsessed
with everyone who enters our body,
form of food or drink. We've all heard that "we are what we eat, but not
" likewise should worry what comes out our mouths?
The negative mantras work so that if you constantly repeat
something bad about yourself, you end up believing.
I also saw a similar case of Catherine, who suffered from depression. Thirty to
ñ os, smart and bright, she claimed she wanted
recover, but it was impossible. But when he began to talk about himself
it was obvious that she saw herself as "a waste of space" and in
his own words, "crap." This was the first thing I thought when I saw in the mirror
by anas ñ ma, and it never left him throughout the
day. Other variants of this idea is expressed when he said the
other "my ideas are stupid "and" fatal cook. " It was evident that after "self-mutilation
" mental smetía to that continuously,
not have enough confidence to recover.
But these two cases are not even remotely unique in the world
. In recent ñ I have witnessed how this type of case is
multiply, and have come to one conclusion: the words we say
identify what we think about ourselves, our deepest fears, our experiences
distressing and even physical symptoms.
Women have an average of 36
negative thoughts about their appearance, every day. I think our society is suffering
an epidemic of "self thoughts aggressors." Many people spend their life
telling themselves they are stupid, fat, useless or boring.
These people are repeated throughout the day that they are "too old, not good enough or smart." Head always phrases like "can not have everything," if you fail you suffer nothing "and even" not expect too much. " Even in their moments of success, many
smile, but feel inside "This is the summit before descending."
All these expressions are like icebergs, with our words
the tip of what we have in our mind.
With these mantras negative within us to
hypnotize ourselves, believing that we are the worst. And all this
perpetuated by our culture in our society, we tend to not have great expectations
, a problem aggravated by the recession, and the fact that we should not think big, because ahead "one ñ you hard."
worsening But all is that our society does not
positive rewards. Think about how others react if you say "I'm
brilliant in the kitchen" or "I'm so good at my job I will get a promotion
." All think you're arrogant.
Negative thoughts tend to originate in the
childhood negative experiences we have forgotten. Although for many these experiences
ñ alan unsolved problems, others believe that only
a habit, and can be changed with a little discipline.
As soon as someone realizes what he says and what it means
begins to take action on the matter. It is very important that we realize
our expressions and their meaning, as
thoughts and words can give ñ ar our health more than any hamburger
full of saturated fat, and more healing than any
"superfood."
thoughts and words
have the ability to stay on track, or depressed. Thus, the problems of
weight and self-disparaging expressions are inextricably linked.
speak ill of yourself will lead you to take refuge in food, and gain more weight, and even
can end up finding yourself very badly.
Therefore, your words should reflect it as you
really be positive about your appearance and qualities. If you
negative and stressful thoughts, you feel tense, and release hormones ñ
da ins, such as cortisol, which can cause an increase in your blood pressure.
But if you think happy thoughts, and you can change quickly
your fitness. Positive thoughts release serotonin, endorphins and other hormones
relieving the effects of stress. Even better, if you follow an organic diet can
be expensive and take a long time, it costs nothing "clean" your words, and
benefits are immediate.
This process of purification
can help if you suffer depression, anxiety and post traumatic stress and to ease the nerves and insecurity
before an interview.
No need to see a therapist.
we can all benefit and increase their happiness by studying what we say, our thoughts
analyzing and considering the words we choose automatic
way to describe us.
The key is to make our words reflect our aspirations
, no worries about things that have happened or could
pass. You can improve your life by yourself.
When you realize you are saying something about you
even if it is negative, stop a moment and change the words of others
be constructive. Think of this process like a diet because you are eliminating and avoiding
certain elements (words, thoughts and beliefs
hurt you, and limit), and replacing them with positive thoughts and behaviors
and healthy.
"You tend to apologize for your disability? "If
someone offers you the chance to do something, your first instinct is to think
you will not be able to take a a cabo? ¿ Piensas que siempre eres
impuntual, o que no sabes leer mapas?
Cuando llamas por teléfono, ¿ empiezas la conversación con
“sólo te llamaba…”, devaluando la importancia de tu llamada? Todos estos, son
indicadores del diálogo negativo que tienes contigo mismo.
También debes evitar los apodos denigrantes o que te
limiten, que te hayas impuesto a ti mismo. Por sorprendente que parezca, mucha
gente se refieren a si mismos con palabras como “perdedor”, “gordo” o
“monstruo”. Los apodos pueden ser da ñ inos, and can make you stay in the same spot
life.
If you're always making excuses for yourself,
or if someone offers you something, answer "I can not," you might
're reacting to the comments of others as if they were reprimanded or
something that scares you. You must change this attitude, turning over
positive. Instead of thinking "I am stupid," "I'll never do it" or "I have fear,"
you think "I'm fine," I can do "and" I'm fine. "
If you often criticize yourself with these thoughts "
knew it would fail" or "you are useless", stop for a moment and realize da ñ
or you're doing, and limit your potential. Replaces
these comments "destructive" to others who
help you, and represent what you would see in you, as "at least what I tried
", "I'm proud of my effort" or "I can do ".
A first step in your "therapy" is
analyze your words and your thoughts about yourself, and replace them with adjectives positive. As you do, you'll notice how
you feel much happier. After a few days, replace "okay" with "is
fantastic." To evolve with the words, not just change your thoughts,
but the way how life is.
In any case, it takes persistence to break a habit
and there are other modern methods such as massage reenergizantes,
in a deep breath, visualize happy memories or some of your favorite places.
When you realize that your mind is dominated by negative thoughts,
to dry, breathe and think of a special holiday happy
or any music you particularly like.
Once relaxed, you can replace negative feedback with positive
. Only when thought and language
reflect what we want, instead of our limitations, we can realize our dreams
ñ years.
